OPINION: It was the kind of intense, instant connection that I'd only seen in awful rom-coms, where I was transfixed with every word that came out of his mouth and thought he was made of magic.
However, as times change, it reflects in the society, and by influence, the way relationships work.When I look back, I remember the electrifying feeling of being jolted awake from a sleep I never knew I'd been in.It was an experience that hugely shaped me, and one that never would have happened if I'd written him off based on his age.I felt I'd found someone with whom I connected in the most perfect way, but so many of my friends fixated on his age: how could I possibly find any of that in someone so young? When I was growing up, my sisters and I all agreed that we would never – NEVER! Once, my older sister reported that she found out a boy in her class was a whole month younger, and it was unanimously decided that that ruled him out entirely.When one of our aunts remarried a man a decade younger, a tizzy broke out between the three of us – what was she doing?Hence they are ideal for you if you are actually looking forward to taking things slow, and hoping for the best down the line, instead of the speedy trip down to the altar.When you enter a relationship with a younger man, there is every possibility that you would have dated more people than him.Wouldn't it make sense, then, that he'd be older, too – richer in life experience, to guide us through our lives? It's a clear parallel with the idea that the male partner should be taller than the woman – which, as Tracey Spicer wrote last week, is a result of unconscious bias that subtly reinforces gender stereotypes and expectations.There was always talk, too, of the idea that men mature at a slower rate than women.I've also read articles proclaiming the benefits of dating younger men, from increased energy to better sex to less emotional baggage.Though these pieces strip away the cultural taboo that still seems to underscore the idea of older women with younger men, the prescription of such sweeping generalisations to something so deeply individual also seems unproductive – we fall in love with people, not concepts.