The key to doing this is to understand the dynamics of intimidation and the motivation of those who attempt to wield it.If we do, it can never inhibit our actions and control us.Like a Stephen King horror story, intimidation comes at us in many forms and faces.As long as intimidation is going to be part of our lives, we might as well learn how to deal with it, resist it, and even use it.He will keep pushing so long as he thinks he can get away with such action.On the other hand, as soon as the intimidator realizes you will not be intimidated, then the whole relationship will change.From that experience, one observation clearly stands out: Those who consistently use their position or power in an organization to intimidate others do so in response to their own inner anxieties of insecurity, weakness and fear of being exposed as incompetent.This type of manager uses intimidation as a defense mechanism and protective moat intended to prevent workers from breaching their wall of insecurity.
In fact, this approach is the antithesis of effective leadership and detrimental to any hope of achieving success.
It joins death and taxes as one of the few certainties in life.
If someone tells you they have never been intimidated by someone or something, they are lying to you because they are too intimidated to admit it.
This understanding gives us the power to rise above the situation and turn it against the intimidator. This is the embodiment of the old saying, “Fight fire with fire!
” That is, creating a “back-draft” that turns the intimidation back on the intimidator.